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Friday, January 23, 2009

Do they think you're sexy?

Next question!

Anonymous said...

I'm curious if Bonobo's would ever consider a human being to be a potential sexual partner?

There are other mammals that will mate outside of their species (humans included!). Just curious if bonobos make advances on humans they are close to.



Well this had to come up sooner or later. The truth is, I don't know. the confusing thing about bonobos is that sex for them is a tension relevieng activity. So when they get tense, or anxious, they want to do some kind of sexual activity. this isn't sex, per se, but more of a rubbing.


there is, by the way, a nerve that goes straight from your brain to your genitals, so stress in your brain can manifest itself, you know... in lower areas. Actually when i was younger and i used to play the piano, horribly, so I was making mistakes all the time and getting very frustrated, I would actually feel physical pain in my nether regions.


i think this is how it is for bonobos. they want to be rubbed or soothed, base 1, rather than a home run.


so in summary, i think the come ons i've recieved from bonboos have been more like a handshake, a sort of hello how are you, no I don't mean you any harm. I've never heard of anyone having sex with a chimp or a bonobo, and yes i do find the idea a little disgusting.

having said that, here is Tatanga, who I am a little in love with, giving me a particularly sexy smile...

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

evan on bonobo pants!




Evan, one of our graduate students who studies bonobos at Lola has just joined the band of brothers at www.bonobos.com

It means he gets half price pants! which is good coz he's a student and broke. Evan worked very hard on his essay all christmas eve. his whole family was admiring that he was so dedicated to his studies, but actually he was just gunning for half price pants. they're great pants tho. check them out. and here is his essay reproduced b/c of all that effort...

I work in the department of Evolutionary Anthropology at Duke University and my research focuses on the question of what makes humans unique. I explore this question by trying to understand how we are similar and different from our two closest living relatives, chimpanzees and bonobos. People have studied chimpanzees for a long time and lots of ideas about humans are based on what we know about chimps. It is only recently that our equally close relative, the bonobo, has stepped into the anthropological limelight. Compared to chimpanzees, bonobos live in peaceful, relatively friendly societies. We’re hoping that humans can take a lesson from bonobos and were glad you’ve embraced that philosophy as well.

Ironically, the peaceful bonobos live only in the war-torn Democratic Republic of the Congo. We observe the bonobos at Lola ya Bonobo, a sanctuary dedicated to the rescue, rehabilitation, and release of orphan bonobos. Additionally, Lola ya Bonobo works hard to help the Congolese people by teaching school children about the special responsibility they have to protect and cherish the remaining wild populations of bonobos. Through collaboration with Congolese science students, we are developing an international team of researchers dedicated to learning about and learning from bonobos. Ultimately we hope that our work for protection and increased knowledge of bonobos will help humans celebrate peace and tolerance in similar ways.

Although a career researching bonobos will never be lucrative, I will always be spoiled with their good company. If you see fit, I would be honored to join the good company of the Band of Brothers. You will find no better looking, more stylish ape than a bonobo, and with your help, the researchers studying them will look just as good.

Monday, January 19, 2009

happy birthday to christine!

just want to shout out to christine, one of lomela's adopted moms. she has a big birthday on tuesday, and i wanted to thank her for her support.

in fact, christine wrote the very first comment ever on the wildlife direct blog

'Oh my gosh, thank you so much for the news about Lomela… I know a number of us have been waiting with baited breath!! Seriously, this just made my day…I have her picture (the one of her eating the mango) as our computer wall paper at home…it just cracks me up everytime I see her…my husband loves her now too! And welcome to Kata..she already seems well on her way to good heath and bonobo happiness…and kudos to all who are helping nurse all these precious babies back to health and are working to educate the villagers!'

when kata was dying, it was christine and some of the other faithful followers who made me feel less alone, and there were people out there who cared. so thank you christine. lolo sends you a big birthday kiss

Friday, January 16, 2009

lolo & lukuru


Sweet little Lomela is definately the bigshot at the nursery. Since Kata is now BFF with Eleke, Lolo's has transferred her considerable affections to Lukuru - the smallest in the nursery. They make quite a pair - Lomela has eaten her way into her six year old body and Lukuru is still barely bigger than a banana.

Lolo watches over Lukuru every night in her nearby box, and the mamas often come in to find Lomela staring at Lukuru lovingly. Mama Micheline is both Lomela's substitute mother and Lukurus, and so the rest of the mamas call them sisters:)

Lomela grabs Lukuru's foot!

Monday, January 12, 2009

Mini sasquatch for adoption at Lola!

Some of you might remember the post I did about Bigfoot

http://bonobohandshake.blogspot.com/2008/08/bigfoot.html

Well someone stole my photo and entered it into a Bigfoot competition! and it came runner up!!Link

http://www.fieldandstream.com/article_gallery/Trail-Cam-Contest-Winners-Sasquatch-Photos/2

Supersleuth Loren Coleman tracked me down - i laughed so hard I spat out my tea!

Anyway the winner?

Bigfoot with the ipod of course!


So adopt your 'mini bigfoot' now! www.friendsofbonobos.org/support.htm

Thursday, January 8, 2009

call for television ideas!

hey everyone, you never know who's out there, so i'm doing a shout out to see if anyone has any television contacts.

Lola is releasing a group of bonobos this summer, and they are trying to find a production company to film it - does anyone have any ideas?

National Geographic said no already....

Saturday, January 3, 2009

kata to the rescue!

after all the fun i make about Kata being a selfish little drama queen, she goes and ruins everything with this rare act of heroism...

it was an ordinary day in the nursery -

eleke was in trouble with mama esperance - he stole her shoe and was running all over the nursery with it, so mama esperance was yelling at him to give it back... when out of nowhere, kata steps, no, LEAPS between mama esperance and eleke and shields him with her body.


Mama Esperance couldn't help it, she burst out laughing. kata and eleke siezed their moment - eleke dropped the shoe and they both went and hid in the bushes.

look at that wrinkled consternation on kata's face (she's the one on the left)!

what a hero!

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

new years resolutions...

it's coming up to that time again, and i hope you've all got your new years resolutions ready!Personally, i'm going to try and lose all the (*&^^ weight i put on at thanksgiving and xmas - seirously whose dumb idea was it to have TWO food oriented holidays within a month of each other?

the nursery won't be staying up till midnight this year, they have to be in bed by 8 like every night, but i did get a little whisper of what they wanted to work on...

boyoma: i will not pick my nose in public

Lomela: more hugs!


Lukuru: grow bigger so no one steals my bananas

Masisi : bridge the divide between species - dogs have feelings too!

kata: change what? i'm perfect!

adopt a bonobo! www.friendsofbonobos.org/support.htm

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Monday, December 22, 2008

Brian & Alan Alda


A little while ago Alan Alda did an interview with Brian (hubby) at the NC zoo. The zoo doesn't have any bonobos, so Brian had to make do with chimps, but he shoved them in the interview anyway. The PBS special will air next year, will keep you guys updated for an airtime!

http://www.pbs.org/wnet/humanspark/featured/spark-blog-alan-alda-meets-the-chimps/174/

ps. for those of you who don't know who Alan Alda is, give you a clue - Hawkeye - M*A*S*H

Saturday, December 20, 2008

A merry xmas from us...


Thank you to everyone who has donated to us for Christmas. This December we've raised $1500 - our biggest month of the year!

From everyone at Lola, thank you from the bottom of our hearts. Especially in these times of economic turmoil, we know it's an especially tough Christmas. That people can still give to others, even in tough times, restores our faith in humanity, and gives us hope for the future.

To tell you all the truth, it's been tough for us to raise money in the US. Unlike almost any endangered species, not many people even know what a bonobo is, much less that they're our closest living relative and the most endangered ape in the world.

If you're a last minute shopper, like me, it's still not too late! give a donation or adopt one of our bonobos for you or someone else and you'll receive a certificate and our newsletter! www.friendsofbonbos.org/support.htm All donations are tax deductible!

So once again, thank you. I would especially like to thank the following people, who have giving generously this year. A special squeak for you all from the bonobos at Lola!

Sherri Schroeder
Yukishige Kawasaki
Neil Brooks
ANNA MARIA CZAJKOWSKA MAZZINI
Ian & Stacey Donnelly
Gemma Ellis
Paul Gartland
Steven & Dora Gomez
Marie Haroon
Jennifer Jefferson
Carine LE THANH
GIOVANNI MAZZINI
Lisa Recht
Nelly Schmücking
Edward Wobber
Christine Cichetti
Dorraine Job
Barnaby Ohrstrom
Maite Giraud
Jade Lee
Georgia Harley
John & Bretta Fox
Sara Gruen
Sarah Shimko

Theresa S
brigitta s
Maciej G
Annette R
Theresa S
Kevin C
Baerbel W

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

avoid xmas crowds - donate to charities!

There's nothing that sets my teeth on edge more than xmas shopping. I hate everything about it - the lines, the crowds, and most of all, the pressure of spending too much money on gifts i know people are going to chuck to the back of their cupboards. Of course if I was like my mother and did all my xmas shopping in October, I wouldn't have a problem, but the fact is, it's the 17th and I haven't set foot in a store and I know it's just going to get worse.

I'm all in for showering kids with fairy dresses and toy trucks, but for friends, family, and inlaws, Brian and I are taking a different tack this xmas.

We're donating to charities: the moon bears (all those stories of draining bear bile makes me so sad), the Catholic Relief Service, offsetting our carbon, and of course Lola.

The average US family spends $1000 a year on xmas - although with economic downturn, this year it's more like $700. I think Christmas is about giving to those less fortunate than ourselves, which then gives us a chance to be grateful for what we have.

So if anyone wants to avoid this


by giving this

go to www.friendsofbonobos.org/support.htm .

Friday, December 12, 2008

Lukuru!

just got a photo of little lukuru! Here she is!

it's quite an improvement if you think about what she looked like a few months ago.

Anyway, she's a fiesty little thing. I remember even when she was almost too weak to move she'd bite my finger if i came too close to her mama Henriette - imagine a tiny thing like that having the courage to bite a creature 50 times bigger than her to defend her adopted mother! The mamas say she's only gotten more courageous and that she's goign to be the alpha of the nursery before too long

Watch out Vanga!


Adopt a bonobo for xmas! www.friendsofbonobos.org/support.htm

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

news from the nursery

kata threw a corker of a tantrum yesterday, because Mama Esperance didn't give her milk before Lomela. Lolo tried to make up for it by hugging Kata with one hand and chugging her milk with the other, but Kata wasn't having any of it and screamed so loud the mamas 'thought she would die'.

Masisi is still looking after Sandoa who is getting stronger every day. she laughs and smiles a lot more but the mamas would like her to put on a little more weight.


Lukuru is turning out to be stronger than anyone thought possible - she clocked His Royal Highness Vanga one when he tried to steal her orange.

On the newborns, Kisantu's baby boy is called Nkumu, which is Bakongo for 'prince'. And he is indeed a little prince, his squinty little eyes have a royal air about them already. Grow strong Nkumu, you're our hope for the future!

It's not too late to adopt a bonobo for xmas! www.friendsofbonobos.org/support.htm

Friday, December 5, 2008

Sheryl's worried...

One of our favourite adoptive parents, Sheryl, said about the post 'happy thanksgiving':

This is where my animal rights ethics and wildlife conservation interests do not mesh. I believe every individual is important, and that sacrificing some for the good of the species is wrong. Personally, I’d prefer a well-armed patrol to protect the bonobos who are going to be released. This plan makes me queasy.

I understand how you feel, sheryl, and believe me, it is going to be tough to see any of the bonobos die, and some of them will. But we have to find a way to successfully release bonobos. we can't wait until they are all almost dead before we figure out a way that works.

I also used to think armed protection was best, but how do you protect an area that's 20,000 hectares? You'd need thousands of men and even they couldn't do it. How do you stop them using their guns to shoot other animals? Congo is crawling with armed men, and none of them have any qualms about using guns to extort the local population. And once you bring guns into it, you risk killing people, and this leads to village wars.

The people who know the land are the Po. The people who have the most to win from the bonobos surviving, are the Po. If you bring guns into it, then people will die, and in a country so rife with violence, let's try the peaceful way first.

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Claudine in the House of Lords!




Our director and founder, Claudine Andre, has just won the inaugural Badham-Evans Award for Women’s Commitment to Wildlife from the Twycross Zoo in London!

She was presented with the award at the House of Lords in London, and heaps of famous people were there, including Susannah York, Stephanie Powers and Miranda Richardson, each of whom helped draw attention to Andre’s work and the bonobo’s plight. Richardson, who I think we all remember for her performance in Merlin said: “Claudine’s dedication to these animals is remarkable. It is now our responsibility to join her efforts.”

The Badham-Evans Award was named after Twycross Zoo founders Molly Badham and Nathalie Evans, and will “honour other women who have committed their lives to caring for and saving wildlife worldwide.”

Claudine has survived civil wars, economic strife, and personal danger to protect bonobos, one of the rarest great apes in the world. She created the Lola ya Bonobo sanctuary in 1994 with one bonobo and we now have 63 orphaned bonobos at the 75-acre site near Kinshasa.

We love you Claudine! You are awesome!!

Sunday, November 30, 2008

happy thanksgiving






orf. i would have posted this on time, except i was too busy scoffing turkey and then lolling on the couch in a tryptophan induced slumber.

news at lola is that the agreement between the Po and Lola ya Bonobo has been signed! a 20,000 hectare area near Basankusu is now officially the sitefor the bonobo release next year!

For those that don't know, this will be the world's first bonobo release. Every other great ape species has been reintroduced into the wild, except bonobos. Even though we could lose as many as half the animals we release, it's important to do this now so we can figure out a way that works, rather than leave it until we have the very last bonobos and THEN have to figure out how to release them.

Some of you have been curious about why we haven't already released all the bonobos back into the wild. It would save sanctuary running costs of $300,000 a year, and the bonobos would be better of the wild, wouldn't they?

The truth is, reintroduction is very risky. First you have to make sure the area is safe, and the bonobos you release wont be hunted and killed as soon as you let them go. Then you have to keep feeding the bonobos because the years they've spent in the sanctuary means they won't be able to find all their food. The area has to be large enough to have the feeding requirements, and isolated enough that they won't keep running into the nearest village to steal food from humans.

The site near Basankusu is perfect. The local Po community has agreed to become guardians for the bonobos, which will provide much more protection than hiring men with guns. The forest is full of fruiting trees and there are no other bonobos that will be in competition for resources.

Our vets are at the release site right now to sort out the logistics of how they'll manage the bonobos, where to hold equipment, facilities for medical emergencies, etc.

Watch this space for new developments.


sponsor a bonobo! www.friendsofbonobos.org/support.htm

Sunday, November 23, 2008

bonobos in pants?

I had a chat to the lovely Andy Dunn of Bonobos yesterday, who, get this, does pants.

Brian was given some for his birthday, and unlike the usual American fat pants, these pants actually make Brian's bum look hot. This was Tatanga's face when he saw Brian in Bonobos this summer, who we all know had a little crush on Brian already...

So seeing as these totally cool pieces of wadrobe carried the name bonobos, I emailed Andy and asked if he'd be interested in becoming a sponsor. Who immediately rang me, and said yes, absolutely and even though they are still a new company, gave us a generous donation and sponsored all three bonobos, Lomela the charming, Kata the drama queen and Boyoma the terror.

So since our store doesn't have pants, if you want some that are stylish, affordable with the coolest name possible, visit www.bonobos.com. They ship in 2 days (heaps of time for xmas!) and they have a no hassles return policy. Let's help these two charming boys get their company started.

I just bought Brian (what else?) the Congos for xmas. The palm frond lining cracks me up.


Thursday, November 20, 2008

Bonobos for Christmas!

For all the anxious adopted parents out there, here's the latest. Boyoma, shock horror, has totally calmed down. He has gone from being a royal terror, to being everyone's friend. He has stopped picking his nose and beating up on smaller bonobos - he's hardly recognisable! I hope he doens't change too much - I'll miss the old Boyoma!

Lukuru is good but still small, she's eating and drinking fine, and trying not to be jealous of Sandoa and Masisi, who has adopted the new orphan, just like she adopts dogs and chickens. Lomela is the sweetheart of the nursery, but growing huger by the day - she'll be ready to graduate to group 3 soon!

But the big news is - we have new items in our shop, just in time for xmas! now you can give gifts and support your little infants over in bonobo land.

There's the all new organic cotton T

Maternity shirts for sexy bonobo mamas

And even something for the little ones.

Visit the shop - www.cafepress.com/BonoboFriends and order now!